What is a life Coach & how can they help me?

Updated: Jul 31

The world of #lifecoaching can be a confusing business if you are not clear what it is all about. There are many misconceptions and many people out there calling themselves 'coaches' but what they usually are, are online marketers, mentors, self-made health gurus, or therapists. All that is amazing and all has its place.

You will find that a lot of coaches have come from of those backgrounds themselves and that they offer coaching plus an array of other services as part of their toolkits to help people. Pure coaching, however, is very different, and I would like to define what the differences are and some of the real benefits of hiring a coach.

Life Coaching is NOT the same as other 'helping' professions. A key difference is that the life coach's focus is on 'your life' in the present, right NOW, ... and on moving forward toward well-formed outcomes. Life coaches usually help you to ask yourself "how?" or "what?" "or tell me more about that" about your choices for the present or future rather than "why?" about your past.

Life Coaching is not the same as consulting. People hire consultants as content experts, to give answers and advice. People want help from a professional about a specific issue, from the consultants specific area of expertise, consultants often tell you exactly what steps to take to get to where you want to go, on the contrary Life Coaches operate under the knowing that you are the expert in your life and your situation and you can come up with your own solutions. We believe all people are perfect, whole and complete.

A coach asks questions so that you get to your solutions and answers via the route that is best for you personally. She operates from a holistic perspective and often stays with you for a while on your journey toward fulfilling your dreams and goals. A consultant usually moves on after you've reached your goal in that specific area.

Life Coaching is not the same as therapy or counseling. A therapist usually operates under a medical model with dysfunctional areas of a client's life (often calling them "patients"). He or she helps "fix" problems and mental health issues, like depression and neurosis. A therapist often focuses on the "why?" from their client's past and spends a lot of time exploring problems and giving advice.

Life coaches believe you are fully functional and proactively focus on solutions based on "how?" questions. Life coaches know how to help you focus the present, on getting from where you are today, to where you want to be! Life coaching is not the same as athletic or sports coaching albeit they are very similar because an athletic coach helps you become your best you. She challenges you, holds you accountable and is often your cheerleader. Coaches do all that!

The main difference is that sports coaching is about competition and is focused on winning and losing. Your life coach helps you bring out the best in yourself. And if winning is part of the situation, she will often help you come up with a win-win for everyone involved.

Life Coaching is not the same as a 'friendship.' If you make a good choice in coaches, she will probably feel like a really good friend, maybe even a best friend, Remember she is a trained professional. You can trust her to work with you on what is important to YOU.

Your coach will let you vent like a friend, but she knows how and when to help you move on. She will not worry about hurting your feelings by pointing out things you might want to be working on. Your coach will not give you well-meaning advice, tell you what you "should" or "should not" be doing and she won't have her own agenda for your relationship.


A Life Coach is a partner who holds YOUR agenda. She listens actively and non-judgmentally and gives you powerful, honest feedback. You are collaborators working together on your goals, your interests and passions, your professional and personal development, whatever really matters in your life. So far the answer to "what is a life coach?" has been to contrast it to other 'helping' professions, but how about a concise definition of a coach?

There are a lot of coach training schools and each has a slight variation on their definition of a coach. Most of them are valuable for some clients, each in their own situation. I will give you two definitions for now. If think you want or need a coach, I am just glad you are doing your research and asking what is a life coach early in the process!

The International Coaches Federation (ICF) is the recognized, worldwide accredited organization for coaches. ICF answers "what is a life coach?" with this definition: "...an ongoing partnership that helps the client produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives." If you are looking to work with a coach, try to find one that has followed the ICF pathway and is either certified or on their way to certification, this way you know that you are actually working with a proper Coach, who will be trained by an ICF accredited school that by law has to meet ICF standards of education and practice. You can visit their website on by clicking on the image or type www.coachfederation.org in your browser.

Some of The Many Benefits To Working with A Coach.

I will help you eliminate the mind clutter and the should's and should not's, so you first narrow down what you want, and then set the goals that matter. Of course, a coach will show you tools and strategies to manage those goals too. Unlike getting opinions from, partners, friends, family or co-workers a coach is more like an objective outsider who sees your blind spots and will help you to maintain perspective.

2, You can conquer your fears.

Working with a coach is not for the faint-hearted, and can push you way out of your comfort zone. I will offer you a very trusting and safe environment to work within and with your permission, we will go deep, because in the deeper layers we will learn to process, and is where the magic happens. When we face what's scary and uncomfortable we can make huge changes in our personal and business lives, and although some may seem unrelated, conquering fears in one area can have a ripple effect into other areas, so overall the fear has lifted, and poof, vanished!

3, You learn to love yourself.

I know it sounds cheesy, but 'loving yourself' is the single most important thing anyone can do for themselves. And if you don't love yourself no one is going to do it for you! The analogy my mentor coach gave me was this; 'Have you been on a plane and heard the flight attendant tell you to put on your oxygen mask first? The immediate response is, "No way, I need to take care of my kids (husband, mother, best friend, the stranger in the seat next to me...). ' The idea clashes with our instinct. What does it really mean? Simply put: If you don't put your mask on first, you won't be there for all those other people when they need you. You will be unconscious'. Why is this so important? Burnout, depression, loneliness and physical ailments are just a few results that can happen if we neglect self-care. There are many tools a coach uses to help work on different areas of your life to create a better, nurturing & self-care environment for ourselves.

4, You will have More Balance In Your Life.

Having no more time will become a thing of the past! We will work together to achieve a better work, life, balance.

5, You will have confidence like never before.

We will work on the areas where you lacked in confidence in the past and shift you into new scenarios where you are excelling and I will be there wholeheartedly to support you through the process. I am passionate about my clients and seeing them succeed, I only have your best interests at heart, and I have no other agenda but yours.

6, Your Life Will Become More Fun.

With greater choices come more options available to you, you will have more freedom to do the things you love. Walks in the park, more time with your family, writing your blockbuster or blog. Whatever it is that makes you happy, you'll have more time to do it.

About Danielle

I'm a 'Professional Credentialed Life & Business Coach' accredited with an ACC certification from the International Coaching Federation USA, a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner of #Reflexology, Master of Usui Reiki, and recently practicing Astrology. I have over 25 years of work experience with clients in #coaching, #energetics, and #self-#development mastery. Rather than approach the topic or the external manifestation that's showing up directly in a client's life, my work has a #holistic approach, encompassing the #mind, #body, and #spirit as a whole.

I use a unique combination of coaching tools, #astrology, #shadow work, #guided #imaginary, #manifestation techniques, positive psychology, and #embodiment work, which creates powerful change from the inside out.

I'm a Mum to two lively teen boy's and a small zoo of fur babies. Born & raised in the UK, and I currently divide my time between there and the Island of Cyprus in the Mediterranean.

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